A new debate started in the maternity ward

This happened a few days ago. Manakumari could not become a mother even after three years of marriage. At one time, the fetus would come and stay in the womb, but it could not come down to the earth as a baby. Slowly Manakumari's mind began to dominate. The mind of becoming a mother. Why don't thunder fall on another mother, just be a mother yourself.

On the day of the incident, thousands of people cursed him - may the child thief feel guilty. But he had no fear of sin, the curse of that day. God has already cursed, how much more could be added and his conscience probably felt this.

After knowing the reason for Manakumari, my mind was confused. Now pity or anger? The strongest argument among the angry crowd on social media was that if he did not have children, he would have adopted a son/daughter. Had to steal it? At first glance, this is true. But would Manakumari be able to adopt a son/daughter now if she wanted?

Even if a married couple knows that they cannot have a child within a few years of marriage, they cannot adopt a godchild. You have to wait for ten years. The age of that woman is only 23-24. The age gap between godchild and parents should be 25 years. So let's leave him alone for now. But, 25 cut, mentally, physically, financially healthy another childless Mankumari. Manakumar, who is unmarried but wants to give fatherly love to an orphan alone. Is it easy for them to adopt children?

According to Section 172 of the Muluki Dewani (Code) 2074, the main law on adoption, any married couple can adopt a son or daughter only if they do not have any desired children even after ten years of marriage. Likewise, unmarried, widowed, widowed and divorced or legally separated women/men (shared according to court order, separated according to law or legally separated) after reaching 45 years of age, women/men can say that they will raise children.

On the same day that the child was stolen in Kathmandu, the Pyuthan municipality issued a notification about the child. A few days ago, a newborn baby (daughter) was found in the goat shed of the local. There was a notification calling for parents who were willing to raise that child as a religious child. A sister sent me that information. She is unmarried. Having reached the age of 30, earning money and having a loving heart, she wanted to bring her daughter with her and bring her up. But the law pushed Didi.

Two days later, another news came again, a mother who could not bear the family quarrel due to the birth of her daughter disappeared leaving her newborn daughter in the hospital. Even if the sister had a daughter, she would have raised her with more affection than the family gave to her son. But sister's age has not reached 45. Didi slipped again. However, the law did not sit with the goal of throwing sister. Perhaps the intention of the legislature is that if children are given before the age of 45, then such unmarried people can get married, if they have children, they can ignore the children. However, does anyone forget that the children who show their maternal love and paternal happiness without getting married will have another so-called 'own' child? It cannot be argued that this will never happen. But it cannot be said that even a mother who gave birth from her womb does not throw her own baby in the bush. In the name of expressing anger with his wife, it cannot be argued that a father would not kill his wife along with his own daughter. Among the children born by themselves, there are also fathers who carry one shoulder and carry a stick to the other. It cannot be argued that one cannot get married after 45 and have children.

In the rush to find this impossible certainty, on the one hand, the house that wants a child should live in solitude, on the other hand, the child that wants a house should live in the noise of the street, what is justice? Article 178 (2) of the Civil Code envisages that another child may be born even after adopting a son/daughter. It is said that even if another child is born, there should be no impact on the status of the adopted child. Then what is the reason to wait until 45?

Protection of orphans is the responsibility of the state. A responsible body must check the economic, social and moral condition of the person who wants to adopt a child. But isn't it more beneficial for the child to have a healthy father or mother of 30-35 than to have a father or mother who is getting old after 45? Legally, surrogacy is banned in Nepal. But even now, many couples in Nepal secretly go abroad to have children and choose surrogacy by spending millions. Even if you don't pay with your own money, take a loan.

In Nepal, 9 percent of the total children population, i.e. 1 million, are without parents. Some of them end up in orphanages. According to United Nations global statistics, more than 300,000 women die worldwide every year due to pregnancy complications. It's not that many women don't want to be a mother, but on the one hand, they have the desire for a child, on the other hand, the terrible havoc of labor pain. On the one hand, the uterus, on the other hand, the fear of death due to the same uterus. Sometimes due to this fear, the affection that flows like a river even when you see a child, dries up like a raging child when you think of the child you will give birth to yourself. Dharmasantan can burst that dry root of affection again.

Famous Indian actress and 1994 Miss Universe winner Sushmita Sen is single. But he has two adopted daughters. She gave birth to her first child Rene in 2000 and Alisha in 2010. She said in an interview about her daughter, "When the eldest daughter became an adult, I told her clearly - you can find out about your birth mother whenever you want." The information is kept inside the envelope of the High Court, you can go and open it whenever you want. But she has never woken up that desire.' How sweet childhood she must have lived to get this level of satisfaction, not even once waking up the desire to know who is the mother who gave birth to her.

Sushmita turned 45 three years ago. According to Nepalese law, it has been only three years since she was able to adopt a daughter and become a mother. But today, her daughter Rene, whom she carried in her arms when she was 6 months old, turned 23 years old. Alisha, the youngest, cut her thirteenth birthday cake with a friend who was "lucky enough to live in Baa". Even if the Indian law had told Sushmita, 'You are unmarried, you must reach 45 years of age', I don't know which street Rene and Alisha, who are living happily now, would be on the street or in an orphanage.

Mother is not just a womb. Like children born from the womb, children of religion are children born from the heart. Some want a child, some have to become a 'mother'. But the law that should be a bridge between these two states that 'my principles are greater than your needs, I will not change my life'. If the law is to be amended, if the age limit is not practical, what other criteria should be set, what is the correct age? After a long debate, this legislature will decide. To begin with, we can study by taking examples from other countries that match our environment.

In India, an unmarried man or woman can adopt children only if they are of age. Well, the age gap between parent and child should be 25 years. Even married couples can apply for adoption after two years of marriage. The intention, financial, physical and mental condition of the person who wants a child is given more priority than the age. Therefore, the limit has been set at the minimum age of the person asking for adoption. The younger the child is, the fitter the parents are, the maximum age the parents can be is determined according to the age of the child at the time of adoption. For example, an unmarried person over the age of 40 cannot adopt a child under two years of age. In the case of a couple, the age formed by adding the age of the husband and wife i.e. 'composite age' is considered as Aadhaar. If the child is between the ages of 8 and 18, if the single parent is less than 55 years of age, and in case of a married couple the composite age is less than 110 years, adoption is allowed. What is in India may not be the best for us. However, the law that is uncomfortable for the one for whom it was made should be changed. At least it's too late to start a debate.

There should be only one prerequisite for the right to have a beautiful childhood - having a child. The joys of childhood are not the crowns of those born only at birth. If a child is likely to have parents to spend a beautiful childhood, the state that stands in the way cannot be called a protector.

(Not only politics, but industry, business, agriculture, education, health, tourism, banking, cinema, literature, there is disappointment everywhere now. The country cannot bear the weight of this disappointment for a long time. To promote lively faith, Kantipur has started a series of ideas- A 'starting point' where different experts will write proposals for reform, continuously.)