Social stigma of marital violence

Many kinds of sexual distortions and rape crimes are spreading in our society. Incidents like rape of young girls, some committing suicide, and the killing of teenagers on the basis of caste have become a feature of our society. Religion, society, culture, customs have played a major role in those events. However, the scriptures that are said to be sacred and scientific in the world are also found in Asia, and in Hindu-majority societies including India-Nepal, religion is practiced as a social rule. But within this practice, there is some error in the social and cultural practice that we have done, when we try to say whether something should be left or modified, some people will be surprised. There are some communities who have everything – education, wealth, foreign experience, good job or social status. They are doing many spiritual and religious tours saying that our culture should be preserved. On the one hand, those who use all the resources of the West, and on the other hand, they do not hesitate to reprimand them for not protecting their customs, caste, religion, and culture.

But those who are following the cultural beliefs, those who are following the mythological story as absolute truth and are also attracted towards modernity, are bound by these dharmakarmas. Our religion teaches us to be kind, but at the same time it also teaches us to be jealous. It teaches to be traditional, but at the same time it also teaches to fit in the modern and marketist world. English New Year also attracts us and Nepali New Year has to be celebrated even more. We also consider Vivah Panchami as Sita Diwas and we continue to love Valentine's Day as well. In this situation we are being hypocritical. We are chanting Rama name, Krishna hymns. Young Babajis who walk reciting Puranic stories have also come out. It is coming in line with preserving a business and its culture.

We think that a person who shares knowledge should be clean and ethical. We expect pure thoughts, pure manners, pure behavior from a Pandit. However, there are many Swami Maharaj who teach ethics and rituals in the society. But it has not come out that Asharam Bapu and Ram Rahim were also ruthless and violent. It could not be said that this order does not extend to young scholars who have made religious scriptures their livelihood even in modern society. Recently, a woman disclosed that her husband, the narrator Pandit, had misled her and had an affair with another woman. He said that so that other women do not become victims, the inner workings of those who gain fame in the society by creating the image of 'Pandit', 'Maharaj' have to be opened. If her claim is to be believed, she got married to that Pandit three years ago. However, after some time, doubts started to arise about his relationship with other women. Whatever the pre-marriage relationship is, even if you want to forget it and move on, it is understood by the victim's statement that the husband wants to continue the post-marriage relationship.

If a woman wants to go public for mental 'relief' saying that domestic violence has happened to her, that her husband is wrong, then women's rights activists or conscious groups put some assumptions. It should also be kept. Regardless of religion, caste or geography. We are not the ones to decide whether we should have gone to court to say all this or wherever. Such incidents that happen daily in the society but do not come out show that the bitterness within the marriage relationship in the society and women are numerically more victims. After the victim expressed the violence she experienced, there were some reactions where not even a small part of humanity was seen.

'There is no expression of pain on his face', 'Look what a competitive leader's speech', 'There is no vermilion in the nose', 'This is how it is when habits are bad', a character that pleases the brokers of the West'. It seems that social media itself has decided that she is not a victim, her husband cannot be wrong. And another commentary seems to be made by this. For example, if you look like a victim, you should cry while crying, if you are virtuous, you should walk with vermilion on your shoulders and the appearance of a married woman. However, we have seen that in the case of many other female victims, when the news comes, most of the people insult the women rather than the male perpetrators. It is because we are one-sided and indifferent to women's sensibilities that such reactions are coming in the context of women. The structure of the society itself has molded the structure of our brain.

If this woman who is called a victim really wants to get out of such a toxic relationship, she has to dare to let go of comments and fear of insecurity, such as cutting off seven old women, saying that my mother has worshiped her feet, where will I go if she leaves. She is well-educated and seems capable of taking up any profession to earn a living. Being haunted by a relationship and stuck in one place is not saving the institution of marriage or living in a broken house, which can collapse at any moment. It is also good when a couple who have suffered from mental torture like this young woman takes the decision to 'move on'. And it is not only women who are responsible for saving and preserving culture and religion. Pandits, priests or leaders of any religion who try the art of hypnotizing other audiences by wearing makhundo in the name of religion should now think about this matter.

The tradition of becoming a father (and becoming a mother also seems to be increasing) and giving advice to others, but becoming corrupt in one's own wisdom and thoughts, harms the society itself. The Jamaat who wants to preserve religion, culture, and religious philosophy will also suffer losses. It is natural for the followers of any religion to be interested in listening to the sermons of the leaders of any religion. However, it is time to take care of the dual character of such leaders who are considered as their idols. Religious texts were also the laws of society at one time. Those who preach to others should be especially careful and should be role models by committing to follow those religious laws continuously and society will move in a positive way.

Another important thing, even in modern marriages, young people should make it a habit to have a lot of conversation and discussion. The era of sustaining a marriage by saying 'yes' just because someone shows a photo is over. Kanyadan, let's leave the foot worship behind. Let's also discuss arranged marriages about how your spouse is envisioned. Women also have to think whether they want a dependent married life or an independent and independent one. The commitment of married life should be how to live comfortably for this one zuni rather than cutting seven zuni. Otherwise, there are different theories.