Don't bother Teej with questions

On top of that, in a society where women are described as cultured, characterful, wise, beautiful and gentle, if you try to be a little different, if you raise your voice a little, negative comments will start.

Women were confined to the confines of the bandej for centuries. Accepting the society where sexuality has created every restriction, he also indulged in the practice of sati. The mentality of the time that the death of the husband meant the end of the life of the wife was burned in the pyre along with the husband. Nepali society, which has a history of cruelty towards women, still finds it strange that women are strong, strong, independent and happy.

In the year 1910, Jung Bahadur Rana tried to reduce the practice of sati to some extent by issuing a civil law for the first time in Nepal. It is a historical fact that some of his queens were sent to sati after his death because the sinful society may not have understood his decision. Jung Bahadur prohibited widows below 16 years of age and women with children below 9 years of age from going to sati. Although not completely banned, the practice of sati was finally declared to end in 1977 during the reign of Chandrashamsher. The practice of sati has been abolished, but even in the present age, the attitude towards women who laugh, dance and rejoice after the death of their husbands has not changed.

A woman who lost her husband due to covid after three years wearing a red saree on Teej posted a picture on social media, her family and relatives hurled abuse and abuse. She was taking care of her daughter and her basic needs by working in a bank and was thrown out of the house after the death of her husband. Currently, she is on the road to legal remedies for her and her daughter's rights. Realizing that no one has the power to erase natural rights such as share rights from Sagol's property, she becomes mentally weak when the opposition questions her character, behavior and lifestyle because she is single.

In sub-section (2) of section 209 of the Civil (Civil) Code 2074, if a husband or parent dies without a share, there is a provision that his wife or children will get his share. Even though times have changed, this society still neglects to give a share to women after the death of their husbands. Single life is certainly not easy after the death of a husband. On top of that, women who are fulfilling the responsibilities of children forget all the pain and uncomfortable situations when Teej comes and enjoy dancing and meeting.

While working as a voluntary freelance legal practitioner, I have closely observed the stories of hundreds of women. While preparing any document including petition, petition, reply or appeal, they narrate more struggles and sufferings than they can put into it. Women are unable to fight legal battles due to lack of marriage registration. They are wandering because they cannot have their children's birth registered. They are forced to work in the informal sector.

They are working inside the house daily without pay, without leave for twelve months. Who understands that labor should be valued? No one pays attention to reducing the violence faced by single women, economically disadvantaged and Dalit women who are in a vulnerable position in the society. Even now, women are fed excrement, evicted from their homes, and given physical and mental pain on accusations of witchcraft. How many women have lost their lives in the name of corruption and bad culture. Those who readily accept gender-based violence have an indelible impression that women should be cowed, bowed down, and suppressed. Such incidents may seem normal to him.

Women still endure violence due to ignorance of their rights and laws. Teej festival is an excuse to rejoice for those who are moving forward with a little hope that everything will be fine amidst all the struggle and stress. A society that has the mentality that victims should always show pain and live, should be able to accept that women forget their pain and laugh. On the 13th of August, the Ministry of Home Affairs released the necessary information regarding the celebration of Teej festival. The notification that women will be punished according to law if they celebrate Teej by organizing unnecessary flamboyant and expensive programs has proved that even the government has a headache with women's meeting, dancing and fun. There is no reason to protest even if the women who are dealing with injustice and oppression for their homes and clans celebrate Teej for one month.

Women do not seek to reach justice until the point of atrocity is extreme, just as they do not rush to the hospital without being sick. By normalizing domestic violence as a fight between husband and wife, women are increasingly victimized. Dancing is considered as the best way to forget depression and sadness in the world. But dancing also requires an excuse, which is given by Teej and the excitement before Teej. It is necessary to change our mindset that only the songs of women's pain and religious sentiments sung on Teej by the grandmother generation should be heard on Teej.

In modern society, some festivals exist and are a chance to meet each other. With a feeling different from other months, it is possible to take time out from the daily rush to dance carefree. Apart from Facebook, Instagram and X, the song can be heard through YouTube or other media. You can feel beautiful by dressing up in your favorite color of red, green or yellow. Let's leave it to the women to choose whether it's Teej's Baka or other songs in an atmosphere of pure joy, forgetting the pain and suffering. Violence against women should be zero in the society of the 21st century, but what does it mean to live a society that likes to express the pain of divorce on Teej, like in the Stone Age?

An egalitarian society will be built only if women are treated equally as independent human beings and not just as someone's daughter, someone's wife, but by accepting their independent existence. So let's stop questioning even if Teej is celebrated a month ago, dance to modern songs on Teej. No one is taxed in the Teej rate special program. Those who reach rejoice. They certainly celebrate Teej by taking time out from fulfilling their duties and responsibilities. The

item song 'Bistrale Polyo' was released close to Teej and was given the nickname of the Teej song. It was brought to a state of ban as it attacked the original tradition of Teej, causing great damage to religion, culture and the entire music sector. Singer Shantisree Pariyar's decade-and-a-half-long singing journey has been pointed at with negative comments without appreciating it. Finally, he had to issue a statement and apologize for the mistake he did not make. While in the YouTube video of that song, Teej's expression or name is not mentioned anywhere. The audience should be able to choose which song to dance to, which to listen to, and which to not listen to. We would have accepted four times more defiant item songs. We've heard it, we've danced it, haven't we? It is ironic that we do not even have the awareness to understand that all item songs are not Teej songs.

Let the women blow the trumpet of freedom this week. Homeowner, office, child Despite all the management, those who are celebrating Teej should not be bedridden or not.

– Khadka is a freelance journalist and advocate.