Pressure and ambivalence are high during adolescence. On the one hand, you have to understand the expectations of your parents, on the other hand, you have to fulfill your own desires and interests. On top of that, there are worries about studies, exams, and career.

Anisha Shrestha, who is studying at Malpi International College, was also under a lot of stress when she was enrolled in class 11. "Because I was guided by psychology from a young age that I should become a doctor because I am good at studies," but she chose management instead of science. Which was contrary to the expectations of parents and teachers. "I had chosen the subject knowing my interest and ability," she said, "but others did not like it." 

Anisha's experience is that when she chooses a topic of her interest, her family and society keep raising questions about it. He had to answer the question 'What will you do, what will you become after reading such a subject'? Because of the archaic thinking that brilliant students should study science in school, they should study doctor, engineer. That's why teachers and parents often don't ask, 'What are you going to be? What are you interested in?' Instead, they impose their will on their children. A friend of mine has all doctors in his family. He was very interested in agriculture. But because of his family, he was not happy without studying B.Sc. Nursing,' Anisha added, 'If he could have studied agriculture, he would have done better.' But the teacher never helped him because his studies were not good. He was always punished in school. "Finally, he could have made a lot of progress if he understood his singing talent and interest," says Anisha, "but neither the teacher nor his family helped him." . Anisha believes that all students must get high marks and become doctors and engineers. 

19-year-old Asik Khatiwada believes that our society's tendency to compare everyone is not appropriate. "Not only the ability and interest of each person, but also happiness can be different," he said, "but here we compare each other." He is a law student. It was a choice of his own interest. However, he says that not everyone can read according to their interest. What to read is already decided by the parents. When parents are dominated by what will happen in the future, children often do not know what their desires, interests and goals are. Arguing that there is always a kind of pressure, Asik says, 'The more you grow up and study, the more pressure you feel, sometimes you think life was fun when you were young.'

Devyani Adhikari is now 17 years old became Studying in class 12 at Rit Academy, she says that instead of thinking about what her interests and goals were, she was more concerned with what the society thought of her. While in school, she focused only on her studies. Books, 'homework', 'assignments' are not allowed to go out, in the classroom all day long. Along with taking extra classes in the school in the morning and evening. “SEE was teased as Iron Gate,” she recalls, “so she had to forget about herself and focus on books.” She was a brilliant student in school. Being a genius, there was pressure on him to study 'science'. But after reaching class 11, she chose law. "I chose the subject of my interest against the expectations of parents and teachers," she says, "because I had to face a lot of stress while meeting the expectations of others." Anisha also agrees with Devyani. She adds, 'More stress is caused by what others think than by oneself.'

Adolescence itself is considered a sensitive stage. At this time, on the one hand, there are rapid physical changes, on the other hand, due to hormones, emotional upheaval is also happening. This is also when you are more interested in things like fun, entertainment, companionship, fashion, food etc. Along with that, there is more sense of appearance and competition. It keeps them unstable. At this time, the pressure of studies and career worries also start to bother. Therefore, they suggest that those who have reached the teenage stage should pay more attention to mental health. 

Asik says, 'There is mental pressure at this time as you are at an age where you have to deal with many things at the same time. That's why some people may fall into depression, some may fall into depression and anxiety.'' Because they may feel that 'I have no one, I have no meaning to live'. In the past, there was not much debate about mental health. But they say that it is becoming a mandatory requirement now.