"I am your mother, not God!" She taught her sons when they were growing up. She kept saying, 'I am also human. Mistakes can also be made by me.' As taught, the two sons never thought of him as 'God'. I think it's a friend. Before whom they could bow their heads in reverence and feel the lust of affection.

Actor brothers Ayushmann Deshraj and Ashirman mother Raveena Deshraj used to find the golden moments of their lives. And they always treated Mamu as a friend.

The mother raised the sons, the sons also saw the mother grow up. Especially since they grew up together. Ayushmann brought golden news to his mother with a bright glow on his face one day. Ayushmann was in love with actress Priyanka Karki. He told Ravina, "Mum, we are getting married." Looking at her son's glowing face, Ravina asked, "Are you happy?" Raveena 'celebrated' Ayushmann and Priyanka's marriage. As the married life progressed, Ayushmann and Priyanka's daughter was born - Ayanka. Raveena is now not only a mother, but also a grandmother. 

Raveena lived a single life for many years after Ayushmann and Ashirmann's father divorced. One day suddenly spring came in his life. A new budding of love has ended. She said to her son Ayushman, 'I have met a good man, I am going on a date with him.' Ayushman looked at his mother's face. Mother was eager to fly with the wings of love. He asked his mother, "Are you happy?" Ayushmann, witness of every happiness, saw his mother brightening up. He accepted his mother's decision. The mother met her boyfriend British citizen Stuart Chapman with her sons.

On the day of Love Day, Ayushmann made love to Priyanka and her mother with her boyfriend Stuart sitting at separate tables in a restaurant in Kathmandu. As Raveena had prepared for her son's wedding, her sons prepared for her wedding. On 22 June 2023, Raveena tied the knot with Stuart. We celebrated love, not marriage. We also invited people who celebrate love,' says Ayushmann. 

Currently Raveena is in Malaysia with her husband Stuart. Bhai Ashirman in India. Parents start their day by saying 'good morning' to each other. No matter where Raveena goes, no matter where she is, she always feels her mother's responsibility and love. A year ago, in a podcast with her daughter-in-law Priyanka, she had said, "Whether mother has another husband or father's other wife." You are always responsible for your children. They always need Baa.''Whether he is growing up or after growing up, Ayushmann feels the same need for a mother. Standing at a deep point of realization, he says, 'A mother is the one who can love others a little without thinking about herself. Neither children can do that, nor friends.' 

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Ayushmann is happy even when he remembers his mother. "Which son does not want to talk about the matter of his mother?" he said, adding the chain of "Mamu" in a cafe in the city. Whether in reality or in memory, he always wants his mother to come. Not only are the sights in the eyes and the sounds in the ears, but also the scents spread in the nose as the memory of the past lingers. He thinks, 'That's mother's lust.' Raveena was a banker. She was the 'Deputy CEO' of the then Mega Bank till her resignation. Ayushmann used to wait for his mother after returning home from school. When Raveena came, she would hug her sons. A familiar lust came from her mother's clothes as she hugged. That lust continued even when Raveena came home days after her retirement. Later realized, "That is the lust of love." 

Saturday was a school holiday. On holidays, they used to visit Pokhara every week. The traveling cycle continued regularly in school life. As mentioned in poet Tirtha Shrestha's poem 'Aama', it was very difficult for Raveena to be a mother. Hold your child at once with a hand that has not kissed a child! 23-year-old Raveena was like jumping into the battlefield of life. In a podcast with Priyanka, she shared her feelings, "I don't know why he is crying when he cries." But her crying was hurting herself. She used to cry with the baby. The child would laugh, she would laugh with the child. 

While raising her sons, she read many books. The book helped him to understand the mentality of his sons who were turning from children to teenagers. Raveena not only shared love with Ayushman and Ashirman, but also shared the 'skills' to live alone in life, discipline, behavior and lifestyle. Ayushmann sometimes felt that his mother was harsh. "But when I started to understand life, I finally started to understand Mamu too," he remembers. 

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Around 2009, tensions were running high between the Bahamas. They were in the process of divorce. Ayushmann was 15 years old at that time. Relatives used to say, "Reconcile, try to reconcile." To a certain extent, the child did not try, but he could not. Finally Baama got 'divorced'. Then he proceeded to explain his own mind. "At that time I understood love as a selfie thing," says Ayushmann. For

, when any child comes home from school, they want to see father and mother together, walking together, traveling together. Ayushmann also wanted the same. But if I want them to live together for me? If you stay for my happiness, then their happiness will be lost,'' he says about the feelings he felt after seeing his parents who were parting. After understanding that, Ayushmann has no complaints towards Baama. 

Father was a businessman, mother a banker. They had the same house when they were together. After separation, there were two. When he had a fight with his father, he used to stay with his mother. When you have a fight with your mother, with your father. I wanted to look good in that too,' says Ayushmann. Both their houses were in Lalitpur. Whether Ayushmann's siblings meet with their mother or father, they reminisce about the past. He laughs at the memory. They are nostalgic. "We don't feel sad remembering the days we missed," he says, "We know that happiness is found in small things." However, the brothers have seen how weak a person whom everyone considers 'strong' could be. "We were the only ones in his safe space," recalls Ayushmann. Whether women are ordinary employees or reach a leadership level, the patriarchy of the society tries to 'dominate' them. Raveena probably experienced that too. She used to come home and cry with her sons, saying, 'It's hard. It is very difficult for a girl to work as a person.' Raveena now openly expresses her sons' support during times of distress. And, she says, 'They are my right and left eyes. They were the ones who would bring me food even if I stayed in bed without brushing my teeth for two days. I could share my feelings with them. I could have cried," she said in the podcast with Priyanka.

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Ayushman, who understood the mathematics of life well, used to fail in mathematics in the exam. Whatever the test, the mother did not want to see her son fail in life. Raveena never said 'do it'. She did not take a stand to read this. She used to ask, 'Are you understanding what you are reading?' Ayushmann read 'A Level'. He liked to read 'humanities'. But the college I attended, there was no such subject. I did not want to study science overnight. Forced to manage. Which could never be understood. He was fond of literature while studying 'A Level'. Literature was the subject in 'A Wan'. I topped college in that subject. Failed in all other subjects! "My mother must have seen me traveling," she recalls.

At that time, Ayushmann was crying and said, 'I can't read this.' When Ayushmann raised his hand saying that he can't, his mother did not press him. Said, "Do what you think is right." His mother never stood in the way of his wishes and decisions. Whether yesterday I will become a 'cyclist' or later an artist. She always supported the wishes of her sons. Ayushmann shared Baama even when he made a girlfriend for the first time. He felt, 'They are the safe space where he tells stories.' Not only that, he also shared about his habit for the first time with his mother. Ayushmann used to smoke cigarettes. Once he said, "I smoke cigarettes." If you tell me not to eat, I can hide and eat more. Say less. I will try to reduce it.' They knew about their son's habits before Ayushmann told them. The answer was the same, 'We know.' She eased the habits of her sons not by being harsh, but by being soft. Ayushmann smoked till later. But he left before the arrival of Ayanka. •

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Various comments came after Raveena's marriage. Some called his move revolutionary. Some are contrary to culture. Some praised the sons for marrying their mothers. Some scolded. How many sons said, 'We will also get our mother married.' Ravina did not consider her action revolutionary or wrong. Being in love, being happy and 'celebrating' that happiness is a beautiful thing in life. That's what she believed. Instead, they are happy because of the positive impact on society.

Now three mother and son are in different countries. They are sharing each other's happiness from different countries. Now Raveena's birthday is approaching. The sons are planning a 'celebration'. Ayushmann and Ashirmann will soon go to their mother. Will hug 'Mamu'. He will be happy remembering the past. "We are waiting for that day," Ayushmann says happily.