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All brothers in the family have the same wife. It is surprising to hear that this custom is not easily accepted by the Nepalese society. However, this custom continued until the 1950s in a settlement of Kimathangka in the eastern district of Sankhuwasabha, which is connected to Tibet.
After the eldest son of the family gets married, the compulsion of all the brothers to accept the 'sister-in-law' as a wife is a very strange and unacceptable tradition for the present society . In Amnepali society, it is customary to treat sister-in-law as mother. Even the generation about 32 years ago did not try to break this tradition, but they could not .
When Pasang Lama of Kimathanga tried to break the tradition, the story of a house-fight started, it is clear how such a custom has taken root in the society . After the marriage of the eldest son, the father showed his son Pasang to his sister-in-law and said that this is your wife too. But Pasang could not accept that. After a quarrel at home, Pasang's "wife-in-law" left the house and married someone else. His brother married another.
Pasang, who was studying in Khandwari, did not want to go home after his sister-in-law had to accept his wife. Not only Pasang, Tenchivi Lama, the first person to pass SLC of that village, said that he could not explain to the elders of the village. Not only Pasang and Tenchivi, but four young people who were studying in the headquarters wanted to break the tradition of their society . But their complaint was that the elders chased them.
According to the 2048 census, this custom was maintained in all of the 42 axes in the village development committee of Savik Kimathang. The former Pradhanpanch Gharche Lama of that village wanted to continue the practice of common wives. He said at that time, "This is a strange custom". This practice should continue . We want to be known by this culture.'
In 2044, this topic was also raised during the visit of the Queen. Locals told that King Birendra Fish laughed after hearing this strange custom. Rani helped take a patient to Kathmandu for treatment.
The three brothers of the former Pradhan Panch family also had a common wife. Gharche used to say, we are also poor financially. Can't live apart . The tradition of having a common wife is culturally our heritage.' Locals believed that having one wife also helped in family planning.
How many brothers and sons are there, the wife was responsible for managing them. Whatever the common wife did, it was the duty of all the brothers to accept it. It was customary for common wives to decide which brother's children were born. It was a custom to take turns spending days and nights with which brother. It was customary for the children born to call the eldest father and the other brothers uncle.
It was also customary for common wives to decide who would do what at home. Work was done in turn. One brother would bring salted oil, the second brother would send sheep and goats to graze, the third brother would send chauri khark, the fourth brother would be sent to live in a chauri shed and so on. When one brother came, the other brother was sent to work . The local police station jawan used to say, 'It is not heard that there is a fight about common wives.'
Locals used to say, 'Even though the eldest has the most authority over common wives, it was believed that wives give justice to all their husbands.' All the brothers also believed that the wife should be happy. The news prepared by the journalist Narayan Wagle on reaching the field about this practice, which seems very strange to hear and see, was published by Kantipur Daily on the first page on 11th February 2050 under the title 'Problem of Common Wife in Singswa Votes' .
But now that custom has almost disappeared . Even though the relationship of common wives of the past is maintained among the elderly people who are over 60 years old, the new generation has left such a custom . The new generation of that village, which is very far from the headquarters, has been against this practice since 2050/051.
Presentation: Rishiram Paudyal
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