”I don't want my son to be raised like me, I have only one dream: to make his future bright. My son will finally grow up when I get old. That's why I have a big dream of earning money for him.”
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I didn't have any big ambitions in life. Since I had to work as a wage laborer since childhood, I didn't have time to realize my dreams. I was 12 years old when I went out to work. After enduring many hardships, I reached Tilottama Municipality in Rupandehi.
I was born in Tamghas, Gulmi. I studied only up to the 7th grade. Since I had a large family, I did not fulfill my dream of studying. When I was suffering from poverty, I did not feel like studying. My childhood passed like that, following the whims of my friends, working, and pretending to earn money.
I am now 26 years old. I have a wife and a son. I am working hard to keep them happy. I have been working in a welding shop for 7 years. I work from 9 am to 6 pm, pounding bricks, hammering iron, and welding. The work is loud, I cannot see without wearing glasses, the work is difficult, but I could not do it without doing this.
What have I not done in my life! I washed dishes in a hotel, worked as a laborer, drove a car, did everything, but I couldn't earn money. The money I earned was enough for food and shelter. I buy new clothes once a year. I don't care about anything. I pay 3,000 for a room. We live in the same room. My son is two and a half years old. We spend more than 3,000 a month buying necessary things for him. Every Sunday we go to the market to buy vegetables. We buy enough for a week and bring it. On Sunday evening, meat is cooked. I don't like meat that much. Green vegetables are also expensive. I couldn't eat it. I had to eat to survive.
I got married for love. She supports me every moment. I earn 30,000 a month. We buy 2,500 rice, which lasts for about a month and a half. I buy all the things I need in the kitchen. A cylinder of gas costs 2,000. Once I buy it, it lasts for 3 months. My parents are in the village, sometimes I send 6/7,000. I take care of all the money management and expenses. My wife is simple-minded. She doesn't know much about the place. My father stays and looks after me.
I want to earn money and keep my family organized. I want to be able to live my life in my own way, eat, and have a place for the child to play. I have been able to add things like a refrigerator, TV, and drawers to one room. A bicycle that I bought for 14,000 was also stolen recently. Now I walk to work. My routine is to come to work at 9 in the morning, have lunch in the middle, and return home at 6 in the evening. No matter how much work I do, I don't feel like I've done enough. That's why I want to go abroad if I get the chance. I think that if I earn a lot, my father's future will be better. After becoming a father, I think that I can do good for my family.
I don't think about much. No desires or desires come to my mind. That habit has never been there. My father raised me with hardship, I went to India myself, and I did other things here too, and it has been like this. The environment has been like that since I was young, so I will be raised like that. I don't want my son to be raised like me, I have only one dream: to make his future bright. When I get old, my son will finally grow up. That's why I have a big dream of earning for him.
You can tell how much importance people place on money when they ask for a loan. If there is someone to lend me money, I get the courage, but when there is none, I stop and sit down. Perhaps it is because I understand the lack – I don’t even remember the days of walking and enjoying with my friends . I walked as much as I could when I was young . I have a lot of responsibilities on my head, I have to work, so I don’t feel like paying attention to other things . People act as if everything will be fine if they earn money . I also have the same desire now – to earn money and make my son’s future bright .
Presentation: Sanju Poudel
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