Teej, Dashain, and Tihar have their own special features. Especially during the festivals, there is a flood of sales, distribution, and displays of women-oriented items. Jewelry and fashionable clothing have become essential items for the festivals.

Due to social media such as TikTok, the demand for various types of jewelry, fashion, and clothes is increasing in the market. These festivals are not less expensive.

In fact, the credit for making such festivals expensive during the celebration also goes to the people of the society. There is a Tihar atmosphere now. It is said that various festivals are our original cultural identity, but from a class perspective, these festivals come in the form of joy, happiness, and celebration for the wealthy and affluent classes. It is difficult for the lower-income community to even maintain their presence in society.

Some are welcoming the first day of Tihar as Dhanvantari Day, some as Dhanteras. There is a rush of shopping in the major markets of the country. On the day of Dhanteras, there are many people who are in a hurry to buy some 'money', gold, silver coins, or utensils. Those who ask also ask - what was bought on Dhanteras?

We have not examined what Dhanteras or Dhanvantari is. But we are obsessed with the psychology of adding some wealth to the day of Dhanteras. There is a myth about Dhanvantari Day, but in the scriptures.

The god Dhanvantari is also called the father of Ayurveda. Another story of Dhanvantari is the story of the Samudra Manthan (churning of the ocean) by the gods and demons. According to the legend, out of the 14 kalash obtained by churning the ocean, Lord Shiva managed the kalash of poison and the gods recovered heaven by drinking the kalash of nectar through Lord Dhanvantari. Dhanvantari began to be worshipped as the god of nectar or Ayurveda. Since the time of Samudra Manthan, there has been a folk saying that Lord Dhanvantari is worshipped on the Trayodashi date of the Krishna Paksha of the month of Kartik. Should we worship wealth or Dhanvantari? Sometimes it seems that myths have taken us in a roundabout way.

The important day of Tihar is also ‘Lakshmi Puja’. A day to respect wealth, worship, and wish for the family to be filled with wealth. This festival, where Lakshmi is worshipped along with Diwali, by making a grand Deepawali to please Lakshmi, making her steps and installing her idols, clearly shows how important wealth is in our lives. When we go to the Lakshmi worship place, we also spend the cash we have and worship her. But while participating in all this, isn't the psychological impact on the class who do not have cash or goods to perform 'Lakshmi Puja' being felt? In any case, there is no pressure to accumulate wealth, the custom of playing Deusi-Bhailo is one of the specialties of the Tihar festival.

The custom of men going to the courtyard of the neighborhood on the night of Aunsi, saying that they will play Deusi and women will play Bhailo, and telling the story through songs can be considered a separate culture in itself. There are also examples of men and women of some societies using the Deusi-Bhailo of Tihar to raise funds for social services such as building a library and purchasing an ambulance through clubs and groups. In return for having fun, the practice of donating the dishes made during Tihar, dakshina-bhetis to the Deusi-Bhailo group also spreads the good wishes of living together in society.

But Deusi-Bhailo has also changed a lot in the form of concerts. One type can donate openly, another cannot. We need to think about this and move forward. If we are going to pass on festivals like Deusi-Bhailo, we need to participate in more and more charitable works and present them as an example of culture and improvement to the next generation.

The culture of firecrackers that is being added to Tihar is also worth considering. Even before the start of Tihar, we have not considered that bursting firecrackers can harm children, pets and other animals. These firecracker products are being imported from various points anyway. Children in our families are also seen begging their parents for such firecrackers. Should we continue or stop such harmful practices? The issue is worth thinking about.

There is the matter of Bhai Tika, the last day of Tihar. There is also a belief that Bhai Tika helps in increasing harmony between brothers and sisters. The main thing is whether brothers and sisters have equal status in the family or is there selfless love between brothers and sisters? Do such things even make sense? Otherwise, what is the use of the gifts and blessings exchanged on a day of Bhai Tika? If brothers and sisters have a pure, trouble-free, mutual respect, trust and friendly relationship, then ‘Sivaling Day’ can be celebrated by exchanging flowers on Bhai Tika without carrying the burden of gifts and dakshina.