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केकी अधिकारीकी आमा

A mother who cannot see her daughter's pain even in reel

Keki's mother Lakshmi was engrossed in managing a private school. In a loss-making school, she used to pay for teachers' salaries, administration expenses, etc. by taking loans. Kiki was taught plus-two on loan. Able to dance, Keki participated in the dance reality show 'Ghintang' while preparing for MBBS. Understanding her daughter's desire, the mother supported her and said, "Do your work, but don't let Dad know."
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Vermilion in the head, grandchild in the neck
Dhoti and choli aha, veil and doli aha
Chhamchham with bangles in hand, rumzham with the talk of the night
Am I tied or dressed?
I do not understand, someone explain!
Reviewer's voice, Prakash Saput's words - tabla beats in the music, red faria-choli, big red tika on her forehead, vermilion on her head - Kiki Adhikari is seen dancing around the lamp. He has doubts about chura-pote-dhoti-doli. And, her question is, am I adorned or bound by all these ornaments?

A mother who cannot see her daughter's pain even in reel

The song has captured the experience-subconsciousness of a large part of the Nepali society. There is a fierce satire on traditions and inhuman rituals in the song.

Just as most Nepali women do not have the right to choose and the freedom of self-determination, the heroine of 'Boksi Ko Ghar' also does not have such rights and freedom. She has been robbed of her 'Self' and 'Identity', that is, Junu, who has been chained to the centuries-old tradition, the status quo. Like most urban and rural women, she is bound by the ropes of slavery. Junu-niwasa in cinema is a plant of people. That plant is her home, where she wanders, her past awakens. Married to an adult at a young age, her life has been stained red, the color of joy has faded since her teenage years. One is destined to embrace the white color throughout life. Darkness is mixed in the life of that colorful teenager. There is light hidden in darkness. However, the darkness that he has to face is added to the darkness, where the ritualists of the society commit adultery within the veil of darkness. Overall, the air he breathes is heavy and his lungs are weak.

The 'Bhaladami' of the society has made Junu a 'witch'. They want to expose the 'witch' - the lustful society and the elites. And, the "witch" has a terrible hatred for those people. There is love for life and fierce anger towards horrible people in 'The Witch's House'. Kiki Adhikari is playing the role of a 'witch' who has lost her mental balance, is deranged, frustrated with life, running away from the world, and towards self-sacrifice. Keki gave a lively performance in 'Boksi Ko Ghar', which does not have two votes. However, his journey so far was not easy. Badri Adhikari, producer of the film and KK's father, wanted his daughter not to work in cinema at some point. But, Keki's desire, fate's decision and mother Lakshmi Bhattarai's (56) boldness prevented her film-journey.

increased. Despite being in the world of pomp, Kosaun far from controversy has become a standard through the acting of gentle, humble and work-oriented Keki.


Jacaranda has now covered the metropolis with purple color. The confluence of spring and purple is wonderful and unique to nature lovers – the joy of beauty. The 'Witch's House' is doing business with a bang in cinemas. However, Keki's mother Lakshmi is not happy. Even in this happiness, his heart is sad. His heart is not smiling.

Lakshmi is sad after her daughter becomes a 'witch' in 'Boksi Ko Ghar'. The reel-life of her daughter, who is demanding her face and identity back from the crowd, has also made her restless. Lakshmi could not watch the scene of people throwing stones at her daughter, calling her a 'witch' and feeding her excrement. She covered her eyes with her palms, closed her ears, she ached at each scene. Mother Lakshmi wants to see her daughter's happiness on screen. ``My mother, you can't even watch the scene of someone slapping me in the movie,'' Keki said while drinking black coffee in the Baisakh sun. He only wants to see me dancing and laughing.'


There is a long list of movies and music videos - Keki's acting path, wherever she is, she stands out. In the song, she is taking revenge on the patriarchy by saying 'barilai samada se haren ma' and in the film she is trying to rebel against the society after making her a 'witch'. Whether she is wearing a red and white dhoti in 'Boksi Ko Ghar' telling a story of unbearable pain or singing a folk song in a koleji kurta-suruwal in 'Badla Barilai', her acting is consistently commendable. Keki's extraordinary acting-journey is inspired by her mother. Keki, who has her own style of acting, narrates the black and white colors of her mother's life with passion. "Mother's struggle is the story of my life, there are some happy and some sad stories", says Keki. A smile played on Keki's face as she remembered her mother during the

interview. After a while some emotions covered him and reminded him of past struggles. Keki's eyes had a deep picture of the past, in which mother's life and some unknown meanings were hidden in it. A father engrossed in his own work, a householder in an ashram, of saintly nature. And the weight of the whole house is on Lakshmi's shoulders. However, there was no complaint on Lakshmi's face, nor any thirst. Keki remembers Lakshmi - teaching herself 'Kakhra' in the light of a lantern, carrying herself on her back and teaching 'ABCD' to little girls. Like this, clear images of KK Dhamila Smriti keep coming in KK's mind. The past of mother and family keeps coming back in Keki's memory. In fact, Keki's mother Lakshmi was a teacher, who used to write some letters on the blackboard with chalk - erasing it with a duster. Keki wants to write and will continue to write - the story of Nepali soil, which will touch the hearts of Nepali contemporary society through acting.

Keki's childhood was spent listening to stories. Badri Adhikari, a renowned director of theater and film, used to tell stories to her daughter, which made her realize the reality of Nepali society. During the golden period of Nepali theater (038-041), he played the lead role in plays like 'Oedipus', 'Asarko Ek Din' and 'Nyayapremi'. Writer Parijat's story 'Salgi's Forced Tears', Ramesh Vikal's novel 'Aviral Baggird Indrawati', made into a teleserial, his serials 'Maun Akash', 'Sahayatri', 'Chorus' discuss the unfortunate lives of Nepali society and downtrodden. Why did Keki make this movie with the story? Why did you choose this story? She says, 'Even now there are villages in Nepal, where such girls are not found, who do not have children in their arms. That's why I included the story of child marriage in this movie.'


The Nepali teacher and hostel in charge of the 'Dorje School' located in Kathmandu was Badri Adhikari from Biratnagar. Keki was born in the same hostel in 046. 22

got married while studying for graduation at the age of one. Calling his brothers and uncles from Biratnagar to Kathmandu, Badri opened a boarding school in Jorpati, Arubari - Bal Srijanalaya. Keki started studying there for two years, she studied there till class 10. Lakshmi took all the responsibility of looking after the school children and managing the hostel.

Lakshmi was so tired/disturbed by that responsibility that she weighed only 36 kg when she was pregnant. In Keki's understanding, she probably lacked diet at that time. After Keki's birth, both mother/daughter developed jaundice and typhoid. TB also caught Lakshmi. Lakshmi used to think that women become capable and strong only if they are financially strong. Economic empowerment is the first step towards women's empowerment. 'Mother started to consider herself strong only after she started earning and using money with her own hands,' Keki said, looking at the traffic flowing on the three-cornered street in the middle of Baisakh, 'I learned from my mother's experience that women are not powerful, and I also learned how women become powerful by watching my mother. Kiki grew up in the classroom. Carrying her daughter in her arms, Lakshmi used to go to class and teach the little girls - up to class one. During the 3 years of nursery school, Keki memorized all the lessons she had to learn, depending on what her mother taught her in class. Keki's memory keeps repeating that day when Lakshmi cried after she got distinction in SLC. Lakshmi was engrossed in school management. The school was in loss, she used to take out loans to cover everything - teacher's salary, administration expenses etc. She taught Keki plus-two by taking a loan. Keki had a special interest in acting from a young age and was good at dancing. While studying MBBS preparatory class, she participated in a dance reality show, 'Ghintang', broadcast on Nepal Television. The mother understood her daughter's wish and supported her. She said, 'You do your work, but don't let Baba know.' Keki became second in that reality show. Then Keki did her first television commercial. Even then, Lakshmi said, 'You do that, but don't let Baba know.'

Photo : Mahesh Pradhan/Kantipur

'Knowing Baba' had a terrible meaning in Keki's life. Because Badri never wanted his daughter to come into acting. He wanted to see Keki become a doctor. However, life-journey is like this, where some things that people want freeze, some float. Keki tore the pages of the diary where father had written 'Prohibition'. The first commercial he acted in was Close Up Toothpaste. In the advertisement, Kiki was saying - Why don't you speak...! He was offered to play that ad in a sudden phone call on the home land line.

What a coincidence, that ad came in the middle of the serial 'Salgi's Forced Tears' directed by Badri. Then? The very busy father found out that his daughter is already into acting. It was at such a point that Badri 'knew' her daughter's interest, in Keki's view, that was the 'mahabindu', where the wings of her father's desire for her were cut off forever. In this way a new situation is created at that angle as if a bomb exploded in the house. The parents had a big fight, the likes of which Keki had never seen before. Badri-Lakshmi's conversation stopped. Kiki considers that dull day as the 'turning point' of her life. She could not meet her father's eyes. Neither mother spoke to him. Keki was tormented by the feeling that 'I made a big mistake'.

``After seeing me in the ad, the parents had a cold fight that stopped talking for many days, and I was the main reason'', Kiki remembers those zero-zero days, ``Mother also wanted to see me become a doctor. He didn't accept my wish either, but he bowed before my wish. Keki thinks that fathers are stubborn in their desire for their children, but mothers are losing themselves in the desire of their children.

Lakshmi kept crying for a long time after that cold winter in the house. His 'Sunkk-Sunkk' also made Keki's heart flutter. Lakshmi was more worried that if something bad happened to her daughter's life and future, I would have to take a jab. Once Keki thought - I will leave my father. However, the father did not want to talk to his daughter - he kept saying, "We will consult tomorrow", "We will consult tomorrow". One morning Kiki stood before her father and firmly told her father who was not paying attention to her, I am not studying MBBS, I am studying BIM. If you think that I am doing wrong, I will leave this study on the same day and I will accept what you said, give me a chance, I will prove myself.

What did you think, Keki's father said 'OK'. Perhaps he succumbed to his daughter's insistence. That year (year 2009), Keki acted in 6 music videos including Shiv Pariyar's 'Kya Dami Bho', Anju Pant's 'Vanama Phulyo Phoolaiphool' while studying for graduation. All were 'hits'. Kiki was engrossed in work. According to Keki, she proved herself to her father. Father found out, where is my happiness? Maybe my father considered my happiness as his victory,' says Keki. Then in 2010, Keki acted in her first film 'Swaar'. Her mother Lakshmi is happy with Keki's performance when she reaches 'Boksi Ko Ghar'. But the daughter always turns a blind eye to the scenes of suffering in the reel. Lakshmi used to think that she would fulfill her dreams through her daughter. "Sometimes a mother thinks that her daughter will fulfill her dream," Keki thinks.


There is a chapter in the life of Lakshmi, who is supporting home and school by taking loans, the memory of which burns Keki very much. Lakshmi's debt increased so much that Keki came to know about it only when both the house and school were being auctioned. The stress of the parents, the phone calls from the bank at home, added stress to Keki. Such days also came, that family of four had to stay all over the place. Lakshmi kept thinking – whatever happened happened because of me. Lakshmi was always under stress. She used to say to Keki - 'I took a loan so that my daughter's future would be better, but today everything went wrong because of me.' In front of home-family-friends, she didn't rush, she didn't want to talk to anyone. Lakshmi's life changed completely after that. Never bowing down to anyone, fearless while managing the school, she was in a state of mind like losing in front of people. The smile disappeared from Lakshmi's face, who was in a state of losing confidence even in front of her own family. Relatives and society said, "This is not something that girls do." But, Bad did not ever leave with Lakpi.

had to struggle again by zero after Alelamy of households. Keki worked in a day, she took care of her family, built a house again. "I did not work a day without work a day. I don't want to remember the day of my mother's stress, always want to see my happy color on her face, "says Kiki. From two years ago, my mother in the eyes of Laxmi, like before, see satisfaction. 'After I get married, I see my mother satisfied and happy, you are previously lost,' KK says. & Nbsp;

Lakshi holds a lot of movie a lot, her habits. What are the world's 'best access' for her. She sits as a audience and shews her suggestions and tell her daughter. Lakshmi is in the lifetime of Lakshmi - Some of the midwate women, some sorrow, some darkness, some changes. Shiki says in his own place, 'in my mother, I met a happy, sorrow, stress. Herezen and sorrows will bring people into happiness. 'Steri-Break moms have many dimensions, where the other face inside the face of the child is also recorded. KK, she can't see the cry of the cinema-in the house, thinks her eyes a lot of eyes, 'There are many things of the mother. - Love, mys, and happiness, and happiness and happiness. Mother's life to be collected together. '

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