Relationships are made by people. In building relationships there is collaboration, in collaboration there is discussion, conversation and sharing and responsibility. All these require strong determination. There are differences of opinion, one side oppresses the other side, injustice, oppression, exploitation, discrimination and violence and if it starts to become toxic, then the relationship will no longer be a relationship - instead it will become discord, discord and quarrel. Relationships are made or broken between individuals and groups.

Understanding, commitment, respect, trust and interaction are essential in a relationship. A relationship is not like a hereditary health problem or a 'love' that is caused by different hormonal changes! Relationships that have not been reconciled are now being leaked on social media. In a

relationship, the interactions between the two parties may lead to disagreements, but the stronger one puts more pressure on the weaker one. Relationships don't turn bitter just because of disagreements. Money, property, position, resources, ancestral ego and excessive expectations also lead to high expectations in the relationship. 

Recently, it became widespread that the government of Nepal is going to bring a draft of a law that will open the way for men to marry a second time. This draft also made a statement that if a man had a child with an outside woman after not having a good relationship with his wife, he should be allowed to marry a second time. Even in the

relationship, the inner intention of the men should be able to take the fun of polygamy by forcing the women to stand up in this argument. Here also came the matter of relationship. If there is a situation where things do not get along with the wife at home, the relationship is cold, even when they try to make it, it does not work out, they do not agree, and they cannot stay in one place, then the legal way is blocked, why did polygamy have to be imposed? 

The special situation is that when it comes to a married couple, they cannot spend their lives in one place and may even go their separate ways! Sometimes lowering the age of marriage and sometimes bringing a legal draft to allow polygamy again makes it seem as if 'sex' and 'reproduction' are only one issue in the relationship between men and women.

There are different opinions about this draft, many of them say that those who can adopt can bring even 10! Are women going to be polygamists or just have to be kept? It seems that women should be especially sensitive to such opinions. In the thinking of some men, the law has done injustice to men, it is also the idea that the law on polygamy can give some relief. Men have yet to understand that there has been one-sided dominance over women for centuries, and it still continues in some cases. 

Leaders who call themselves nationalist and religious on social networks are also confused that the relationship between men and women is that men give and women take, and men are powerful and women are weak. They don't like women coming forward, being equal with their skills and abilities, talking with men, protesting injustice. Some men also want to see women as gentle, caring, nurturing, showing compassion, being virtuous, practicing rituals, grooming, sacrifice and dedication. 

In the 21st century, the group of men who have such imaginations certainly do not consider women's issues as an issue and they do not take time to abuse and complain about women after not being able to adopt the achievements achieved by various women's movements over time. Women being vocal means that some patriarchal minded Jamaats think society is falling apart. Equality between men and women is a universal recognition. Bad people can be both male and female. But because they are women, they should do this, that should be done, some people who consider themselves wise are quoting Puranas. 

relationship and marriage are synonymous with each other. Marriage is a family institution with a social identity. which receives legal and cultural recognition. Joining in marriage is not only the acceptance of sex between a woman and a man, but along with marriage, family-family relationships and responsibilities are also added. That is why marriage should be done sensibly, only at the age of decision making.

Marriage is also a commitment for a man and a woman to live together for the rest of their lives, to bear children, to raise them, and to share happiness. Being loyal and faithful to one's spouse after marriage is also something that falls within the rules of marriage. Therefore, a person cannot marry more than one person at a time. Joint property and income is also an important part of marriage. 

We have seen many difficulties in people's married life due to customs such as child marriage, forced marriage, forced marriage, unmatched marriage. Unsweet and violent events in marriage teach us that we should reach the decision of marriage only by understanding each other and being mature and committed. One or both of the two people could not be included in the rules of marriage, if the marriage relationship is directed towards bitterness and poisoning, then the rules have been broken! 

Human life in primitive society was not as complicated as it is today. They had no permanent home. They lived in cave-like places. People lived in small groups or herds. The mutual cooperation of people is a gift from ancient times and continues till today. Marriage was not an institution in primitive society. There was a relationship between men and women within their own group. Gradually, he began to form relationships with people outside the group, away from blood relations. Since people can speak and imagine, it is a reality that they are moving forward in a practical way by building relationships and searching. 

After the beginning of the agricultural era, the importance of marriage also began to increase with the start of farming and permanent settlements, property, animal husbandry. After the agricultural era, marriage has changed into an economic-social contract between families. Since then, the exchange of dowry has also started. After the development of various religious traditions, marriage was considered as a bond. At the same time, the custom of wedding celebrations started. In Asian countries including Nepal, the Magi marriage system continued. Laws were made regarding the approval and banning of marriages, both religiously and ethnically. 

Comparatively, it is a reality that women have to endure harassment in married life. Especially, women are victims of the social belief that their husbands can say two or four words and two or four slaps. Still some married women are forced to live under financial control and shelter. Incidents like marital rape are also part of the harassment that some women do not say and endure. Patriarchal thinking, economic dependence, stigma like dowry, social shame and fear are also the violence that women experience in married life.