When the foundation of the ``Family'' institution was laid, many stories were written in literature, Puranas or cinema about the two pillars of the center, Ba and Ama, where they are portrayed as sacred and unique, sensitive and tender. The changing economy-political system of the society, socio-cultural traditions are also affecting the family relationship.

It changes in the flow of the effect - the relationship between father and son. Those fathers were symbols of ukusamukus, status quo and tradition for their children! But, now the social scene has changed . Bahru has now become a friend from a ruler. That relationship is now climbing the ladder of dialogue, friendship and companionship . On the occasion of Kushe Aunsi (Father's Face Day), 'Koseli' has tried to discuss the dimensions of the relationship between father and son.

Whenever I think or write about my father Madankrishna Shrestha, only the magnificent picture of him always comes to my mind . Having received more people's love, respect and cordiality only . I always saw Baa as a famous person . It never occurred to me that Ba doesn't know anything or that Ba doesn't know anything or that Ba also has limits .

I grew up in Baco's gorgeous photography. That's why school was in my mind in my life, my father is a famous person, so I always have to stay disciplined . Must be obedient. I never got to be Allarey because of the other fame . Because of Ba's public image, I was always raised to be an obedient son . I myself have become the father of my daughter, but one thing comes to my mind, 'You should not know before your father.' When I was young, I always thought, I can be like you! It feels the same now.

Ba was always afraid of his grandfather. Grandpa used to scold Ba. That was the time of Panchayat period. That's why, like the governance system, Grandpa must have been strict. But my father was not like his father. Since it was a democracy, Hola Ba was also democratic. Perhaps the father was not like his father .

Before I was afraid of Ba . Now I am cautious with my father . Earlier I used to be stubborn with my father . Now I see the expression on Ba's face and try to explain it . I try to interpret it . Before I used to be in love with my father, but now I sometimes think of myself as if my father is also a father . Sometimes I feel like I have become a friend of yours with time . I understand

ba in many forms . As I age, my different understandings about Baka have been building . Previously, it seemed that there was no one in the world as big as Ba. It feels the same now. At first, it seemed that Bae would win everything . Now it seems that Bae sometimes loses to himself to please others and win over others . I don't always like Ba's habit of not winning in any situation even if he has an argument. That's why I don't like all kinds of necklaces. But I can't tell this to Ba. As the age rises, it seems that the child is developing more and more sensitivity, compassion and equanimity.

To fully understand a person, you have to understand emotions, sensations and expressions from all three levels . I always try to understand Baa in all forms . Sometimes I can, sometimes I can't. Sometimes it seems that father hides his little desires because his children are sad.

I'm happy when people say you're exactly like Dad. But some people say that I did not bring my own style to the art field and followed other styles . But my answer to them is always - I am raising Bapan somewhere in me . Which cannot go away from me . After growing up under the umbrella of others, it is not a new thing to come into the style of others. I was able to be a different son because of my other personality . Few sons in the world can be like me . Because many other people treat my father with respect and love. Father is surrounded by love even when I am not there . I hear many people say to you, how much you look like your own father. How many sons in the world will be able to hear this.

While going somewhere with Ba, while talking to Ba, others say, He is your son ? At that time I reluctantly take a step forward and say, son not son. Maybe because of always being with Ba and seeing his flaws closely, I feel very close to him . At the age of 25, I left my country and came to America. But before I was 13 years old, I came to the nest. After returning home more mature, I started to feel Ba more closely .

Others are 'retired'. But I have never seen my children unemployed or idle. Others' fathers go to office, come but I always see father surrounded by works . No matter how old he climbs the ladder, Ba's work never seems to be finished . Even at the age of retirement, I see you learning new things . Sometimes it feels like a bird . Just like birds return home only after evening. Often father does not return home until evening. Baa says, 'If it's not dark, why go home ?' I see Baa always competing with himself . I am 50 years old, Dad is 75 years old . Nowadays, sometimes I feel like I'm getting old faster than my father, or what?

Baa has been dealing with his own health complications . There is 'Parkinson', other age-related health complications will also occur. But I never look tired. This year alone, Ba has been contracted to work in three films. Bako's song record is also going on . Ba's habit of writing songs and being busy in creating things has not decreased.

Is it because of Baa's nature that he is always busy, I feel like Baa is always stuck at the same age . It is only in the last one and a half years that I have started to think that my father has become old. Before that, Ba always sounded the same . I hear some say to you, how young are you? At that time, Ba says in a joking manner, what should I do when I am young? The son is hiding at home.

Father is like a friend to me. But some things happen, I don't tell Baa right away . Some things happen, children don't like . Some things happen, I wonder if it will hurt my father . I also consider how many things are more appropriate for the child than when. Sometimes Ba shows 'Ba Pana' too . Sometimes you do whatever you want and say. Once I said to Baa about something - now you should listen to me too . I am now 48 years old. I also learned something . After some experience . Therefore, listen to my feelings about the household affairs.' After listening to my words, Ba did not say anything . Maybe you took it to heart! But when I think about it, most of the time my father is like a friend. But by saying that, I don't mean to teach everything to Ba.

Because I always accept Baa in a grand manner, I don't argue much with Baa . I have understood Ba so closely, that is why I will never conquer Ba . I have already conquered Bala. Ba is 5.8 inches, I am 5.11 inches . Although I won by four inches, it was not what I wanted. I must have felt this way because I understand both Ba's success and struggle. It must have happened because Ba always looked like an open book. I have understood Ba not only from his behavior and nature but also from his songs, music, acting and many creations . That's why I must have had a different understanding about my father. I don't like some nature like

 . Sometimes I think that I should not have been more sensitive . It seems that Ba should have stopped worrying about others and taken care of himself. It seems that he would have understood the complexity of his health. I feel something different before and after my mother's death. I think that after mom passed away, dad started to look a little more emotional than before . Don't let the child be alone all the time . But I am constantly alert to see if loneliness is growing somewhere inside him . How many feelings are growing up with the father, he can hardly share them with anyone other than the mother . That's why I think he is emotional.

I have seen and experienced Bala in various forms . Baka has many forms. Some of them are special.

rebellious baa : baa never followed the evils as the trend of the society . Instead, Ba always rebelled. Despite growing up in a traditional Newari home, Ba rebelled against his grandfather and married inter-caste. He fought against the Panchayati system of governance. He fought against the undemocratic steps of the king. Ba was at the forefront of the democratic movement of 2062-63. Seeing all this, it seems that Ba was a rebel . Bale also always fought against the evils like harassing women and caste-based discrimination.

Risaha Baa : Baa used to get angry from time to time . But now I don't even know why I'm angry. Maybe you hide your anger inside yourself? When I was little, my father used to get angry . I heard that Grandpa used to get angry even more than Dad. When I was about 7 years old, my father left the house to eat dinner. Me and Baini also started pestering me to go with Baa . We started doing it after him . After we were disturbed a lot, Bako got angry. The father tapped his sister and pushed her to the bed. And looked at me angrily. I was just as shocked. I ran to the roof of the house . Fearing that Ba would do something, I jumped from the roof (above one floor). You have already seen what you saw . There is also another case of

that is angry in the same way . I was studying in 6th standard . One day Ba saw a cigarette in my drawer . I had guessed what was going to happen next. But something different than expected happened . Ba scolded him and said - even though you are the son of Madankrishna, you still eat such cheap cigarettes? If you eat, eat 555 cigarettes . Saying this, Ba put a cigarette in my mouth. I kept quiet . There is another incident of being angry about

. It was when I was studying in 3rd grade, I used to leave home to go to school, but I used to hang out with my friends. At the end of school, a good student used to reach home. Thus, I missed school for 27 days. After knowing this, he reached school on the 28th day. Bale beat me in front of all the students. I kept quiet .

sensitive baa : As I grew up I realized that there is another sensitive baa inside me . Because of that interaction, Ba sometimes cries . At the time of mother's death, father was crying a lot inside . But before us, he did not show much crying. Even when I left America and came back, my father cried . I wondered why the father cried even when the grown-up son came out to see and understand the world . But I am slowly understanding why the birds cry . Baa and Kirankrishna KC Uncle have left the airport leaving me inside the airport in New York . And entered the bathroom of the airport and cried. Father also cried at his sister Sarana's wedding. But when Sarana started teasing, Ba's cry disappeared .

khatuwa baa : baa people who are always busy . Work seems to flow in his blood. Something must be done. To be in conversation with someone . Keep walking with something in your mind. Even if you have free time, humming the song, practicing how to sing the same song in many rhythms . It seems that there are no other fathers like my father.