Every parent thinks – when her daughter grows up . Will someone look at her in a bad light  ? Will someone look at her in the wrong way  ? Will her daughter become insecure  ?

But how many parents think – will my son become a rapist  ?

Most of us don't think like this . Because, our society is still patriarchal  . Here the concern is whether the daughter will be raped  . There is no concern whether the son will become a rapist  .

Be it International Women's Day or the 16-day campaign against violence against women – there are programs every year  . Slogans are raised  . Commitments are repeated  . But the reality has not changed  . Women's insecurity has increased more and more  

We leave our little daughters at the door of the house and go out  . But, do we know, is that girl still facing danger today on the street, in school, in her own room or in a street? Girls, teenagers, young women, old people – regardless of their age group, are they falling prey to the criminal activities of the vulture?

This is not just a story, it is reality. From Nirmala Pant to Inisha Vic, the suffering of thousands of victimized women. The news repeats this every moment. We watch, read, listen and forget.

Rape is a heinous crime. It not only robs women of their dignity, but also insults humanity. This society has taught us many things – but the truth of what it has taught lies in the darkness. The pain of rape and violence has left not only wounds in the lives of women, but also a deep mark of fear and insecurity.

16-year-old Inisha BK was raped and murdered. Her family, who studied in grade 11 at Usha Kindergarten School in Surkhet, is still seeking justice.

The rape and murder of 13-year-old Nirmala Panta from Ultakham, Bhimdatta Municipality-2, Kanchanpur, has been awaiting justice for years. Hundreds of victims like Inisha and Nirmala have not yet received justice.

It is not that there are no laws to bring such ruthless criminals to justice. Strict laws have been made to control incidents of rape and sexual violence. Laws such as the Criminal Code, Violence against Women Act, and the Prevention of Sexual Abuse of Girls and Children Act have made clear provisions for identifying rapists. Such laws have provided for jail time, financial fines, and severe punishment for rapists.

If found guilty of rape, the law has provided for imprisonment from a minimum of 5 years to a maximum of 15 years. If the crime is committed against a girl or an elderly woman, the punishment is doubled. In addition, along with the prison sentence, the rapist is also subject to social retaliation.

Special laws have also given women the right to self-defense. If a woman resists an attempted rape and the perpetrator dies, the law has made provisions not to hold women guilty of the perpetrator's death. Such laws and punishments only try to reduce rape. But in reality, implementation of the law and awareness of society are necessary. But making laws alone is not enough. It must also be strictly implemented. Unfortunately, many times the law is not fully followed here. Sometimes there is even a game of protecting the perpetrator.

There are currently three levels of government in the country. Various structural laws are being made at all these levels. New laws have also been replacing old systems. The irony is that most women are not even aware of this right. Rape is a heinous crime. It not only robs a woman of her dignity, but also insults humanity. Such a disgusting incident of sexually thirsty people forcibly fulfilling their perverted desires is being repeated in society again and again.

Many incidents so far show that those who cannot resist become more victims. Rapes of girls and old women are examples of that. Another problem is also seen in rapes of teenagers. Our society often blames the victim. Women themselves are questioned. Various comments are made. The victim is brought to justice rather than the perpetrator. This thinking is the biggest problem.

Rapists roam freely. But there are many examples of raped women being socially ostracized in our society. Society blames the raped woman. It does not want to find the reason for rape. Some families cover up the incident. This keeps the perpetrator away from legal punishment.

In an insensitive society, even the disabled and the infirm are not safe. Crime is increasing day by day in our society, which has been made selfish by modernity. The question is also this – when will society or family become women-friendly? And, why does rape happen? Because of weak laws or because the guilty are given immunity? Or because of the contemptuous tendency of men?

These questions are not getting answers. Whatever the reason, women are victims of demons every day. Because of our thinking, women cannot feel ‘I am safe’. Therefore, every parent should worry not only about their daughter, but also about their son – will they become rapists?

Because, here, even girls who speak Toteboli have been victims of rape – by their own fathers, grandfathers or close relatives. The series of incidents and relapses is continuous. In an insensitive society, even the disabled and the infirm are not safe. Crime is increasing day by day in our society, which has been made selfish by modernity.

The last resort to stop or reduce this is to punish the criminals according to the law. Strict action discourages others from committing such crimes. Ironically, power and strength are used even to prevent such crimes. Strict action is a far cry from this, there are many incidents that have led to madness.

It is not that there have been no efforts to reduce violence and discrimination against women. Discussions and discussions have taken place. From public meetings to public speeches, from the streets to the parliament – ​​there have been many discussions. But solutions are few. Incidents happen, protests occur. Women's rights slogans are raised. But the problem is still there.