There are many types of identities adopted by humans. Identities are formed on the basis of gender, age, race, ethnicity, physical ability, religion, class, and sexuality. Self-identity is the consciousness that a person feels about ‘who I am’. Humans are the only creatures that feel about themselves through their consciousness. Even other animals are named by humans – dogs, tigers, cats, foxes, lions, elephants, etc. They probably do not have the consciousness that ‘they should have a self-identity in their habitat’. However, animals also live in their own herds.

Different characteristics, personality, interests, skills, strengths and areas that need improvement form a personality or self-identity. Experience, beliefs, values ​​and goals are the main elements of self-identity. Social and cultural factors also have a direct impact on self-identity. How do we see ourselves? What is our concept of life? It is also mixed with self-identity. It is very difficult for women in a male-dominated society like ours to create a self-identity of human life.

The identity of a woman as we understand it is to stay in a low profile. In other words, to be cultured, not to speak nonsense, to obey, tolerating, to be a family caregiver, etc. It is said that someone who has maintained the dignity of the home by enduring many obstacles and setbacks, ‘Being a woman, you should be like so and so’. Why shouldn’t that role model suffer from depression while enduring it?

It is not difficult to be the wise, good, honest, and moral person that society wants. While playing the role given by society, if you fail at some point, no one from society may come to pick you up. Many of us have experienced such a life. We women have become unsuccessful travelers without being able to form a self-identity.

When women who have developed the awareness that ‘educated and self-reliant women are equal to men’ start protesting against the neglect and discrimination against themselves or the female community, our society does not accept it. Women are then equipped with metaphors like ‘I would have tolerated it as a woman’, ‘I should have spoken more’, ‘I am a schoolgirl’.

Recently, when famous young singer Alina Chauhan said ‘she spoke what touched her heart’, we think that she is a scoundrel and a fraudster. We feel this way because we have the impression that ‘women should not speak’ in our minds. When we speak about a topic that makes us uncomfortable, we do not take that ‘speaking habit’ positively and instead discourage it. Perhaps it is because of our ambiguous behavior that many girls and women who are suffering physically and mentally do not bring their problems out and instead take their own lives! We do not analyze whether someone has spoken out about the aspects that need improvement in society and pointed them out. However, we point fingers at the woman who speaks, saying that she is ‘intolerant’ and ‘lacks discipline’.

Even if someone says something wrong and intentionally unwanted, it is still wrong. However, there are many cases where women do not speak ‘too much’ and do not speak. At least when the speaker raises his voice against the wrong, we tend to criticize negatively instead of supporting him. This also affects women's self-identity.

A person has put in a lot of effort and struggle to build a self-identity. Our mothers have also taken care of their children and husbands day and night, taking care of them and taking care of them. They also feel that 'their contribution should be appreciated by their family members'. Our mothers have built their self-identity only through the language of self-esteem. Internal interaction, social interaction, thoughts, feelings and experiences are also churned out within self-identity. However, social, external influences and cultural structures play a big role in women's self-identity.

When a woman divorces her husband and gets ready to live a life of struggle with her children, her friends, relatives, neighbors and other family members from the same society keep telling her – ‘She couldn’t make a living, she was too ambitious or quarrelsome.’ We don’t think that when a woman is adorned with such turbans, she is being insulted. A group of men are trying to exploit women who are struggling to be single. Such activities continue even through social media. Those who have left toxic or incompatible relationships and moved forward saying ‘I am living an independent and peaceful life’ will share all the blame as soon as they become single. What will happen to the self-identity they want to create?

Men and the entire society should positively support women who are struggling to find their identity in society despite fulfilling the responsibilities of their natural and social roles. Now let's talk about the self-identity of a conscious but lower-class woman. A woman lives in a dormitory with her family. She has to keep moving in the course of her work. However, since she is not a permanent resident of any particular place, her creations have no identity and identity. Many of us have experienced the issue that women lose their identity even without their own permanent home and address. Especially if women accept the prevailing values ​​and norms and remain in the status quo, some may feel that 'society is fine'. However, a dynamic society cannot remain happy with the status quo.

When self-awareness, self-concept, and self-respect begin to awaken in women, questions like what is their identity in society, what is their identity, make a home in their minds. Not feeling like a 'home' until you build your own separate house with your own earnings, feeling like you are chained by the many rules and regulations of society, and wanting to feel free, equal, and justice are all indicators of women's self-identity.

In fact, some men can be seen derogatoryly addressing and mocking Sushila Karki, who has held a distinguished position like the Chief Justice and is currently the country's Prime Minister. From this, we can also say and feel - what is the society's view on women when it comes to building their self-identity!

Women's rights activist Mary Bolstonecraft has a saying - I don't want women to have power over men, but women must have power over themselves. Indian influencer and mentor Vikas Divyakriti was saying in a video, 'It is as difficult to be a woman in this world as it is to be a man.' Men don't have to endure the pain of menstruation, carry a child in their womb for nine months, feed and nurture the child. Moreover, if the child does not follow the right path, the mother does not have to endure the abuse.' He adds, 'Men who are exempt from many responsibilities just because of the Y-chromosome should at least have equality towards women.'