Teej of the year 2078. He wanted to dance with his mother and sister-in-law at his birthplace. On the day of seeing my father's face, we took a microbus from Bhaktapur to Inaruwa to celebrate Teej by having darshan of my father and eating the fare made by my mother.

Carrying the responsibility of a busy husband and a single family in the office with young children, the path of our dreams was being blocked by duties and responsibilities for so many years . This time, with the help and support of the family, we gathered time for a few days and flew away to get lost in the arms of our parents and in the fragrance of the flowers and basil of our native yard. But even when we walk along the path of desire and desire, we experienced that nature sometimes blocks the way, but again, this same nature continues to show us alternatives in the same way. 

Due to the incessant rain throughout the night, the road to Banepa was flooded and the vehicles could not cross.

Someone was trying to make our happiness fade like a needle in a balloon of excitement. After talking on the mobile phone for a while, the smart driver bhai suddenly turned the car and sped off. Removing the cloud of doubt that they are not taking us back home, we continued to inflate the balloon of happiness after getting the information that they will reach Dhulikhel through Tathali Nala.

When I reached my birthplace at five o'clock in the evening, I wanted to dance.

We chatted until late at night after enjoying the hugs of love and the shower of happiness for a while. The enthusiasm of my 85-year-old father, despite his physical health, inspires me to always be energetic . Looking at my father's face, eating food and finishing the fast of Teej, how quickly four days passed as if the twenty-four-hour day has been shortened to twenty-four minutes .

Seeing my mother's energy despite the previous day's diet, I was asking myself whether I would be able to stay as energetic as my mother in the next 21 years. Our experienced mother of three twenty-something years is preparing food in the morning for two daughters of over 40 years and only one daughter-in-law . In the meantime, mother was repeatedly remembering my sister's little daughter and my daughter and saying that she should have brought them together even after missing a few days of schooling . It seemed as if the grandmother lost her mind that the little granddaughters would be born without their mother during Teej. 

After eating food on the popular fourth day, mother left for a while and after some time bathed in sweat and took a plant called Apamarg in her arms and came to the verandah where we were all sitting and said let's count Lu Dativan . When my mother found out that my daughter had her period for the first time, she insisted that she bring the nanny on that Teej. I understand, mother  Like me, my daughter also wanted to fast on Rishipanchami in the year of her first menstruation.

There is information in Ayurveda that the Dativan of Apamarga is beneficial for toothache, so I reminded the Bhadaini not to take its Dativan otherwise. During the conversation, I asked her to tell about her experience of her first menstruation . The elders encouraged us and after the incident told by our mother, who was a little uncomfortable, our five women's hearts broke out in pain at the same time. 

Mother's period started six months after she got married at the age of 13 because of the mother's grandmother's belief that dharma can be earned by marrying her granddaughter without menstruation. She became a mother for the first time at the age of 15 with zero knowledge of her body's growth and development. When she was only 27 years old, mother had given us five new lives to this earth . After becoming a mother of a son in her teenage years, even if she gives birth after 3/3 years, the mother is still healthy if she eats properly, takes care of herself and balances work and rest. But a few years after giving birth to the last child, the pain of losing it still sometimes flows through the mother's eyes.

Menstruation is not 'not touching', it is the beginning of a teenager becoming a full woman . Therefore, it should not be discriminated that it happens at this time . Instead, more love should be given as physical pain can be mental stress. The main role of menstruation is connected with the birth of children . It cannot be called a sin . 

Our words were not having an effect on the invisible wall of faith that had become some roots. We did not try to get rid of the roots of superstition given by his upbringing, time and environment by hurting him . But menstruation is not a sin, it is a sign of female maturity. Therefore, it is not necessary to make Kalila daughters fast on Rishipanchami in the name of washing away the sin of not doing this . Instead, the grandmother generation can play a big role in eradicating this bad culture from our society.