A girl from Dhakari Rural Municipality-8 got married at the age of 14. She said that while she was studying in class 7, she fell in love with someone who was one class above her and got married while she was studying in class 8.
Although they got married while studying in the same school, her husband went to Kathmandu to study. She stayed in the village. She said that she did not study more after marriage.
No family plan, no financial situation is good. Reading is also okay. She stayed at home and started doing fairs, grass-firewood and farming. Her husband went to Kathmandu to study for graduation and go abroad after learning the language. "When he went to Kathmandu, he used to call and ask for the latest news. Gradually, he stopped caring about me and my daughter," she said. "Later on, he started not picking up the phone and even when he called, he started to hang up. They even beat him when he came home on Dasain.'
She chose her own love marriage at a young age and has no support from her mother-in-law. When her relationship with her husband broke down before she was 20 years old, she took the help of the children's club and proceeded to get a divorce. Finally, this Kartik, she divorced and separated.
'Unable to bear the daily stress, physical and mental torture, I got a divorce with the help of the children's club,' she said, who is now living in Maiti, 'I left in the middle of my studies, now I am unable to do anything.' Name change) is now 20 years old. He has been married for 5 years. She got married while studying in 8th grade and is a mother of 3 children. Out of the 3 children born, all are daughters. After giving birth to a daughter continuously, she is under pressure to have a son. But his health has weakened. "My husband always stresses me out saying that I will get married again if I don't have a son. From mother-in-law/father-in-law, every society needs a son. But I am physically very weak. "No one understands my pain," she said.
The stress of whether her husband will marry again if she does not have a son is also bothering her now. When you get married after 20 years, the society also cuts things off. They think it is better to get married than to educate a daughter of this age,' she said, 'I was forced to get married after family pressure, we can't educate her much, they started stressing her to get married. After the marriage, there was more suffering.
After the high rate of child marriage in Dhakari, which is a remote local level of the district, the village level children's club has started a public awareness program on reducing child marriage. Lochan Kunwar, president of Creative Children's Club, said that since the rate of marriage of most of the girls after studying above 7th grade has increased, they have reached the higher secondary schools within the municipality to make the students aware. "Child marriage is happening in remote villages because of the lack of awareness," he said Prakash Saud, chairman of Dhakari Rural Municipality, said that the campaign was started with the slogan 'Let me read when I am young, let me read not child marriage'. Stopping child marriage is also a big challenge. There is an increase in cases of early marriage and later violence against women, sexual violence and divorce,' he said, 'We are running a campaign with the children's club to reduce child marriage.'
